A few months ago, I wondered aloud whether spendthrifts and tightwads can ever find marital bliss. But the real question is, given that money is the most-cited reason for divorce, what do you do when you realize you’ve married your financial opposite?

Personal finance writer M.P. Dunleavey at MSN Money tackled this issue in her recent column:

Rather than view this state of affairs as a curse or a failure, accept that this is, to some degree, an occupational hazard of being human (and embarking on relationships with other humans).

Acceptance alone could reduce frustration levels and prevent finger-pointing and blame.

Let yourself be balanced. If you find yourself partnered with your annoying fiscal opposite, consider that, on some level, you probably admire something about that person’s way with money (and dislike aspects of your own spending style).

In other words: You probably crave some balance from each other.

Speaking from personal experience as a newlywed, I find a kernel of truth here. My husband and I are both savers at heart, but I’m more willing to splash out for things like vacations, dining out, and fun. He keeps me accountable and I make sure we periodically reward ourselves for our good budgeting habits.

Curious if you and your mate are compatible moneywise? Try taking this 5-minute financial stress test.

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